Hi !
I came back from vacations 3 weeks ago. Before leaving home 6 weeks ago, I promised myself to blog EVERY DAY during the vacations. Unfortunately, my internet connection didn't work out as well as I thought so I couldn't do it. It was already a struggle to send some emails...and besides, it costed $1 for 10 minutes !!
I wanted to reconnect as soon as I landed but unpacking, laundry, million things to do WITH the kids at home ALL THE TIME, prevented me to do so !
Anyway, here I am, ready to post MORE OFTEN than I did the past 3 months !
I have 2 very good news to share with you :
My husband finally agreed having a third child but at one non negotiable condition : my going back to work first...and I totally agree with that so we are in phase.
The other good news is that we signed for a great land, our land, the one we, I mean "I" was looking for months. It's the first step in the whole process of building a house so I am not completely overexcited but still, it gives me time to do something else (like real work !) and it takes me off my shoulder the weight of the task. I was desperate we would ever find what we wanted, to be honest with you ! ;-D
Ok, first time in months, I make it short. Mister Son is just falling asleep in the next room and I NEED his naptime so I'll be back later certainly to check on others'blogs and get back in touch with some of my readers !
See you very soon !
2008-08-11
2008-05-29
A Horrible Nightmare...
I've been obsessed for 3 full days now by this nightmare. It's not easy for me to talk about it but I have the feeling I need to do it so here I am.
For the first night in 3 weeks nobody, kitten, children or snoring/tv-addict husband, was waking me up. But then, I had this nightmare.
I have to explain you first how Mr Son takes his baths usually.
I set the right temperature then put him in the tub as the water flows. I usually go for 5 minutes or so across the corridor to check my emails or sort some papers while I keep a (good) "ear" on him. As soon as I don't hear a noise, I check on him. I don't go anywhere else, don't answer the phone or the door.
My dream starts the same except that I see myself going downstairs to talk with my husband in the kitchen. After a while, I remember Mr Son and go quicly upstairs....
Mr Son is floating in a more than full bathtub, face towards its bottom...I scream like crazy, calling my husband while I try to do CPR on Mr Son. I wake up at that very moment..
I told you, A NIGHTMARE...certainly the worst one.
It took me 2 hours to get back to sleep...
Since then, I can't do anything that has any small detail similar to that nightmare.
I am hugging him much much more than usual (and usually it's still a lot !)
I am scared to lose him.
Since then, he is scared to go to bed at night. It's not something new, it's periodical but this time, I see it in a different way. Maybe he's feeling my fears, feeling that I am nervous...maybe I am wrong. I don't know.
Then, as we were driving between Miss Daughter's school and Mr Son's daycare today, we saw an ambulance making its way through the traffic.
I say "Jeez, that makes me think I forgot my cell. It's ok now I picked you up but if anything happens to Mr Son, I won't know it until we get there". (why didn't I keep that thought for myself !)
She says "Mommy, what if he was in that ambulance ?", she paused a few seconds that adds "you'll be devastated if anything happens to your favorite son".
Here we are, it's not the first time she complains to me about him being my favorite (she says) but today, it has a different color...(and this will be the subject of a different post)
I am not good at looking for special meaning to dreams (and I don't have time for that) but this one is so scary...Mr Son wasn't alone for more than 1 minute during his last 3 baths and I still have that horrible dream in my eyes...
For the first night in 3 weeks nobody, kitten, children or snoring/tv-addict husband, was waking me up. But then, I had this nightmare.
I have to explain you first how Mr Son takes his baths usually.
I set the right temperature then put him in the tub as the water flows. I usually go for 5 minutes or so across the corridor to check my emails or sort some papers while I keep a (good) "ear" on him. As soon as I don't hear a noise, I check on him. I don't go anywhere else, don't answer the phone or the door.
My dream starts the same except that I see myself going downstairs to talk with my husband in the kitchen. After a while, I remember Mr Son and go quicly upstairs....
Mr Son is floating in a more than full bathtub, face towards its bottom...I scream like crazy, calling my husband while I try to do CPR on Mr Son. I wake up at that very moment..
I told you, A NIGHTMARE...certainly the worst one.
It took me 2 hours to get back to sleep...
Since then, I can't do anything that has any small detail similar to that nightmare.
I am hugging him much much more than usual (and usually it's still a lot !)
I am scared to lose him.
Since then, he is scared to go to bed at night. It's not something new, it's periodical but this time, I see it in a different way. Maybe he's feeling my fears, feeling that I am nervous...maybe I am wrong. I don't know.
Then, as we were driving between Miss Daughter's school and Mr Son's daycare today, we saw an ambulance making its way through the traffic.
I say "Jeez, that makes me think I forgot my cell. It's ok now I picked you up but if anything happens to Mr Son, I won't know it until we get there". (why didn't I keep that thought for myself !)
She says "Mommy, what if he was in that ambulance ?", she paused a few seconds that adds "you'll be devastated if anything happens to your favorite son".
Here we are, it's not the first time she complains to me about him being my favorite (she says) but today, it has a different color...(and this will be the subject of a different post)
I am not good at looking for special meaning to dreams (and I don't have time for that) but this one is so scary...Mr Son wasn't alone for more than 1 minute during his last 3 baths and I still have that horrible dream in my eyes...
2008-05-19
Can we take a break sometimes ?
Last week-end, without even telling (nor asking), my husband put himself in front of the tv and watched one of these documentaries he's fond of. I thought this wasn't fair as I was automatically supposed to watch the kids. On the other hand, he was entitled to this small break. So I was thinking, is there any etiquette of the "me-time on week-ends ?" .
It's tricky for SAHM because when the kids are @ school, we are supposed to be on break until we pick them up...are we ??
Personally, I don't feel I am in break, except for the I-do-it-when-I-feel-it-part but what do I do ? Errands, cleaning the house, balancing check-book(s), doing tax returns (one a year), preparing the next vacations (twice a year), taking care of an 4-person-family laundry (million times a week !!), doing the grocery shopping, taking dentist/hairdressers appointments, dropping off books at the library, etc...
Anyway, I didn't like the idea of "feeling like I am the nanny" while my husband takes some me-time, on a one-way decision. Why should I be the one in charge when they have their dinner before us (so we can chat together while they read books upstairs) ? Ok, I know exactly what they are supposed to eat and how much but how about sharing with Daddy !! My opinion is that we put too much on our plate, thinking that we are the only one we could do it (better). So I started this week-end :
- on Saturday night, my husband brushed the teeth of Mr Son and tucked the kids in bed while I read a magazine on the couch.
- on Sunday night, he gave them their dinner (that I prepared, of course) while I was ironing a few (of his) shirts.
I know lots of men don't like the idea of having anything to do with the kids that involves feeding, brushing, cleaning and eating but why should we be the only ones ? When can we take a break from house chores and taking care of the kids ? So I started this pattern, sharing chores or switching once in the week-end...It's great !! I LOVE IT !!
How do you take a break during your week-end ?
It's tricky for SAHM because when the kids are @ school, we are supposed to be on break until we pick them up...are we ??
Personally, I don't feel I am in break, except for the I-do-it-when-I-feel-it-part but what do I do ? Errands, cleaning the house, balancing check-book(s), doing tax returns (one a year), preparing the next vacations (twice a year), taking care of an 4-person-family laundry (million times a week !!), doing the grocery shopping, taking dentist/hairdressers appointments, dropping off books at the library, etc...
Anyway, I didn't like the idea of "feeling like I am the nanny" while my husband takes some me-time, on a one-way decision. Why should I be the one in charge when they have their dinner before us (so we can chat together while they read books upstairs) ? Ok, I know exactly what they are supposed to eat and how much but how about sharing with Daddy !! My opinion is that we put too much on our plate, thinking that we are the only one we could do it (better). So I started this week-end :
- on Saturday night, my husband brushed the teeth of Mr Son and tucked the kids in bed while I read a magazine on the couch.
- on Sunday night, he gave them their dinner (that I prepared, of course) while I was ironing a few (of his) shirts.
I know lots of men don't like the idea of having anything to do with the kids that involves feeding, brushing, cleaning and eating but why should we be the only ones ? When can we take a break from house chores and taking care of the kids ? So I started this pattern, sharing chores or switching once in the week-end...It's great !! I LOVE IT !!
How do you take a break during your week-end ?
2008-05-11
Updates
I am so upset not to be able to blog every day...or at least every other day. There is no single day ending without me thinking about a post for my blog. I desperatly need TIME !!
My Declaration of Independance is on its way but I already announced casually to my daughter and husband that I will nicely put their folded clothes in a big basket. Now they are free to move them to where they belong.
The second element is the "picking-up". It's very time and patience-consuming but I think it's worth it : everytime my daughter leaves something on the floor or out of its spot, I'll call her to pick it up, whatever she is doing at this time and regardless of the time it'll cost me to wait for her to do it. My idea is when she will be tired of doing it, she'll be more careful with her things. Honestly, I like the idea knowing that I really don't want to clean up after anybody than myself.
I would love having just a few things to do @ home : the laundry (up to the folding part), preparing dinners and breakfast and grocery shopping. I think my time is better used at :
- me time : putting some polish on, relaxing, reading, exercising, blogging, working our business project.
- quality time with the kids : as an example, I spent an hour this morning with Mr Son, drawing, play-dooing and cutting shapes in a magazine. My daughter knows she needs to take care of herself without me reminding her if she wants to do something exciting on her day-off. So she will clean-up after her breakfast, get dressed, wash her teeth and brush her hair. She''ll pick her clothes and make her bed.
It's SO relaxing for me and it's nothing, just deciding that everybody has to take care of his/her own person and her/his own mess if needed. Ok, it''ll take her double the time to do it but I think it's worth it, especially if I can do something else (or nothing) in the meantime...
What do you think ?
My Declaration of Independance is on its way but I already announced casually to my daughter and husband that I will nicely put their folded clothes in a big basket. Now they are free to move them to where they belong.
The second element is the "picking-up". It's very time and patience-consuming but I think it's worth it : everytime my daughter leaves something on the floor or out of its spot, I'll call her to pick it up, whatever she is doing at this time and regardless of the time it'll cost me to wait for her to do it. My idea is when she will be tired of doing it, she'll be more careful with her things. Honestly, I like the idea knowing that I really don't want to clean up after anybody than myself.
I would love having just a few things to do @ home : the laundry (up to the folding part), preparing dinners and breakfast and grocery shopping. I think my time is better used at :
- me time : putting some polish on, relaxing, reading, exercising, blogging, working our business project.
- quality time with the kids : as an example, I spent an hour this morning with Mr Son, drawing, play-dooing and cutting shapes in a magazine. My daughter knows she needs to take care of herself without me reminding her if she wants to do something exciting on her day-off. So she will clean-up after her breakfast, get dressed, wash her teeth and brush her hair. She''ll pick her clothes and make her bed.
It's SO relaxing for me and it's nothing, just deciding that everybody has to take care of his/her own person and her/his own mess if needed. Ok, it''ll take her double the time to do it but I think it's worth it, especially if I can do something else (or nothing) in the meantime...
What do you think ?
2008-04-29
Not a Good Day
Today is Not A Good Day but I realized I haven't post in ages so here I am.
I am quite sleep-deprived so I make it short.
I am dealing with the joy of potty-training (still working, good results so far) but it's positive. The only drawback is that it takes lot of time, patience and laundry !! And it's a huge step for Mr Son and he is just realizing it. He now feels proud and it's quite charming to see a child proud of himself. That makes me wondering, why shouldn't we be proud of something ? Miss Daughter also had her moment of glory : she finally can ride her bicycle without the little wheels helping her keeping her balance. She was really really happy...and I was too, like her dad. I told him that our children were lucky to be children so they could learn new things and be proud of new skills for years to come. We should also be proud of ourselves from time to time, it will certainly boost our self-esteem and encourage us to explore "new lands" !
It tool Mister Son so much energy and involvement that he became afraid of the dark again. It's been almost a week now and he can't go to sleep without an outside help. I know we have all been there but I know I am not doing the right thing. I stay by his side until he falls asleep. Not good...worse : if he wakes up in the middle of the night, I do it again !! Bad bad, I know.
I think I'll keep his bedroom light on all night, like my mom did with me and like my MIL did with my husband. I'd prefer a night-light, for the more-soft-light kind but Mr Son is beeging for having his bedroom completely under control. So I'll try it for a few days. Any ideas ?
I rebelled myself against the worst sides of being a SAHM and will soon make my Declaratuon of Independence during our next and first family meeting. My first point will be laundry. My second point will be "blame yourself if you are late in the morning" (and that will also include forgetting your credit card @ home or your gym bag). I think the third will be about "learn to make your bed" and the fourth " help clean the table". I am still working on the 3 remaining points. As 7 is a special number, that'll fit perfectly with my Declaration. Maybe I'll have my husband do half of the weekly cleaning of the house and the grocery shopping every other week...and it's not a joke, I'll make it print of a very nice paper and stick it to one of the kitchen walls !! Anyway, I am just asking a legitimate contribution, some sort of team work @ home so I can enjoy more free time (and read, and blog, and shave my legs, and do exercice 3 time-a week, have lunch with a friend....). I'll keep you posted. Any suggestion for the last 3 points will be greatly appreciated !
I am quite sleep-deprived so I make it short.
I am dealing with the joy of potty-training (still working, good results so far) but it's positive. The only drawback is that it takes lot of time, patience and laundry !! And it's a huge step for Mr Son and he is just realizing it. He now feels proud and it's quite charming to see a child proud of himself. That makes me wondering, why shouldn't we be proud of something ? Miss Daughter also had her moment of glory : she finally can ride her bicycle without the little wheels helping her keeping her balance. She was really really happy...and I was too, like her dad. I told him that our children were lucky to be children so they could learn new things and be proud of new skills for years to come. We should also be proud of ourselves from time to time, it will certainly boost our self-esteem and encourage us to explore "new lands" !
It tool Mister Son so much energy and involvement that he became afraid of the dark again. It's been almost a week now and he can't go to sleep without an outside help. I know we have all been there but I know I am not doing the right thing. I stay by his side until he falls asleep. Not good...worse : if he wakes up in the middle of the night, I do it again !! Bad bad, I know.
I think I'll keep his bedroom light on all night, like my mom did with me and like my MIL did with my husband. I'd prefer a night-light, for the more-soft-light kind but Mr Son is beeging for having his bedroom completely under control. So I'll try it for a few days. Any ideas ?
I rebelled myself against the worst sides of being a SAHM and will soon make my Declaratuon of Independence during our next and first family meeting. My first point will be laundry. My second point will be "blame yourself if you are late in the morning" (and that will also include forgetting your credit card @ home or your gym bag). I think the third will be about "learn to make your bed" and the fourth " help clean the table". I am still working on the 3 remaining points. As 7 is a special number, that'll fit perfectly with my Declaration. Maybe I'll have my husband do half of the weekly cleaning of the house and the grocery shopping every other week...and it's not a joke, I'll make it print of a very nice paper and stick it to one of the kitchen walls !! Anyway, I am just asking a legitimate contribution, some sort of team work @ home so I can enjoy more free time (and read, and blog, and shave my legs, and do exercice 3 time-a week, have lunch with a friend....). I'll keep you posted. Any suggestion for the last 3 points will be greatly appreciated !
2008-04-16
The letter of the day is P
P as...
Potty-training
I don't know if it's what I explained to him or just a step further he took but it looks like we are doing good (after a month or so). I won't get too excited but I feel confident this time and I hope he does too. We decorated the bathroom with a few printings of Mr Son with his beloved Sesame Street characters. I also made a special potty-training chart where he gets to put special Sesame Street stickers...we should make it on time (for September's Preschool).
Pacifier
We took his pacifier away at night, cold-turkey. So far so good...next step, naptime !
Patience
I haven't been a star in this field but as I tried daily to be a better parent, I realized it was one of the most important quality a parent need to have, if not the most important. It's tough, especially with more than one child, especially with toddlers or preschoolers. But I might need a special chart too. Why can't I be patient a whole day ? Do I put too much pressure on myself about schedules ? Do I have too much pressure from my husband about getting many things done in a day ? How do you feel about your patience ?
Pilates
I was so worried about not exercising in more than a year that I decided to have a 40-minute pilates workout on Sunday morning. It wasn't the best time because Mr Son was around. he showed me he was jealous, I was taking a me-time right in front of him but at least I started. I felt so good that I have to do it again even if it was painful for a few days ! Tomorrow, I'll try the Yoga workout...while he naps !
Promise
I promise to post again tomorrow !
Potty-training
I don't know if it's what I explained to him or just a step further he took but it looks like we are doing good (after a month or so). I won't get too excited but I feel confident this time and I hope he does too. We decorated the bathroom with a few printings of Mr Son with his beloved Sesame Street characters. I also made a special potty-training chart where he gets to put special Sesame Street stickers...we should make it on time (for September's Preschool).
Pacifier
We took his pacifier away at night, cold-turkey. So far so good...next step, naptime !
Patience
I haven't been a star in this field but as I tried daily to be a better parent, I realized it was one of the most important quality a parent need to have, if not the most important. It's tough, especially with more than one child, especially with toddlers or preschoolers. But I might need a special chart too. Why can't I be patient a whole day ? Do I put too much pressure on myself about schedules ? Do I have too much pressure from my husband about getting many things done in a day ? How do you feel about your patience ?
Pilates
I was so worried about not exercising in more than a year that I decided to have a 40-minute pilates workout on Sunday morning. It wasn't the best time because Mr Son was around. he showed me he was jealous, I was taking a me-time right in front of him but at least I started. I felt so good that I have to do it again even if it was painful for a few days ! Tomorrow, I'll try the Yoga workout...while he naps !
Promise
I promise to post again tomorrow !
2008-04-07
A Different Life
Sometimes like the last 3 weeks, I wish I had a different life than "staying at home" (although I am most of the time outside home, looking for the famous Magical Land !). I wish I had a great job so I imagine my day.
Morning starts with a pretty early wake-up, a quick shower and nice working clothes : ideal outfit, a bit classical but trendy. Light make-up and nice perfume.
Good breakfast with hubby then we prepare the kids together, stress-free. I leave home early and drop-off the kids at school.
My job keeps me busy and happy until lunch time. I enjoy 1-hour break, shopping or just relaxing.
Another sift until 6 then I drive home where a great nanny is caring for my children. When I arrive home, it's bath time so I can have a 20-minute break.
She'll give them dinner while I sort out the mail and listen to the news.
She'll leave shortly after and we will have story time with hubby.
We'll share a nice dinner our wonderful nanny would have prepared then talk about our day before watching a movie or reading a book.
I'd enjoy 3 different lives in one, the mother, the working woman and the wife...
How about that ?
Morning starts with a pretty early wake-up, a quick shower and nice working clothes : ideal outfit, a bit classical but trendy. Light make-up and nice perfume.
Good breakfast with hubby then we prepare the kids together, stress-free. I leave home early and drop-off the kids at school.
My job keeps me busy and happy until lunch time. I enjoy 1-hour break, shopping or just relaxing.
Another sift until 6 then I drive home where a great nanny is caring for my children. When I arrive home, it's bath time so I can have a 20-minute break.
She'll give them dinner while I sort out the mail and listen to the news.
She'll leave shortly after and we will have story time with hubby.
We'll share a nice dinner our wonderful nanny would have prepared then talk about our day before watching a movie or reading a book.
I'd enjoy 3 different lives in one, the mother, the working woman and the wife...
How about that ?
2008-03-20
The Countryside and my kitten
Today, I have to post but I'll make it short. My driving around the Countryside and our new kitten are both exhausting ! It's 2 pm and right after posting, I'll have a nap before picking-up at 4 if I want to be able to handle baths and dinner time.
We have a new kitten , 6 months old and she is very funny, cute, smart and affectionate but she has this thing about waking up at 4 am...she starts purring and "hugging us" and she needs to show her affection for 10 minutes. Now that Mister Son stopped coming at 5 am, she's the one that reduces my sleep time. As I am cutting down caffeine, you can imagine how hard it is for me. Lucky that I don't work in an office !!
About the Countryside, I went 30 minutes away from our place this morning and it was like going to a different planet. I am not used to that long driving (mostly highways) and maybe you know how French people drive, that's the most tiring part of the driving !! What I saw was ok but still, I am not convinced we are looking in the perfect area. Since I saw Civil Action, I am very concerned by environment so I need the place to be "all clean" as says my daughter about the way she wants her pastas ! I also want a nice neighborhood, good schools, nice shops. My husband just want his house !!
I know that recession is coming our way so we need to be cautious about how much we will put into that house so that makes my search even more tricky !
We have a new kitten , 6 months old and she is very funny, cute, smart and affectionate but she has this thing about waking up at 4 am...she starts purring and "hugging us" and she needs to show her affection for 10 minutes. Now that Mister Son stopped coming at 5 am, she's the one that reduces my sleep time. As I am cutting down caffeine, you can imagine how hard it is for me. Lucky that I don't work in an office !!
About the Countryside, I went 30 minutes away from our place this morning and it was like going to a different planet. I am not used to that long driving (mostly highways) and maybe you know how French people drive, that's the most tiring part of the driving !! What I saw was ok but still, I am not convinced we are looking in the perfect area. Since I saw Civil Action, I am very concerned by environment so I need the place to be "all clean" as says my daughter about the way she wants her pastas ! I also want a nice neighborhood, good schools, nice shops. My husband just want his house !!
I know that recession is coming our way so we need to be cautious about how much we will put into that house so that makes my search even more tricky !
2008-03-14
The Magical Land
I know, I should post more often if I want to enjoy my almost new blogging experience.
I had a hectic week, I'd say "as usual" .
When I started this blog, I decided I'd organize my time to be able to blog, shop, read and exercise. I haven't done any...except for reading. I started "the secret language of children", fascinating !
For the rest of my "free" time (I mean without my lovely children, 6 hours a day !), I drove all around the countryside for days, looking for the Magical Land to build our nice house. I visited a few small villages, talked with dozens real estate agents, went on websites to check about contamination and other nice stuff you don;t want to live around, etc. It was exhausting, especially the driving part. But that was good because 6 months into our project, we might have found the Magical Land. We'll have a new look at it tomorrow. It has a huge fantastic view over wheat fields but it's still in the village. We are not that far from malls or the city.However, the view is great but I am scared it could be the opposite. I love nature, I love countryside...but on week-ends. As you know, I'll work from home. Will I get enough inspiration and excitation with this flat view ?? Is that so important ?
I know I am a city girl but I also like being in my backyard with nature noises, birds chirping and wind in the trees...I love shopping, going to the library, looking for trends, finding new stores...will I survive ?
I had a hectic week, I'd say "as usual" .
When I started this blog, I decided I'd organize my time to be able to blog, shop, read and exercise. I haven't done any...except for reading. I started "the secret language of children", fascinating !
For the rest of my "free" time (I mean without my lovely children, 6 hours a day !), I drove all around the countryside for days, looking for the Magical Land to build our nice house. I visited a few small villages, talked with dozens real estate agents, went on websites to check about contamination and other nice stuff you don;t want to live around, etc. It was exhausting, especially the driving part. But that was good because 6 months into our project, we might have found the Magical Land. We'll have a new look at it tomorrow. It has a huge fantastic view over wheat fields but it's still in the village. We are not that far from malls or the city.However, the view is great but I am scared it could be the opposite. I love nature, I love countryside...but on week-ends. As you know, I'll work from home. Will I get enough inspiration and excitation with this flat view ?? Is that so important ?
I know I am a city girl but I also like being in my backyard with nature noises, birds chirping and wind in the trees...I love shopping, going to the library, looking for trends, finding new stores...will I survive ?
2008-03-05
My Hubby and Blogs
Hello !
What an ironic question I asked last week...I couldn't find a moment to blog since then !!!
Ok, I worked a lot in the house and also out of the house. But this will be the subject of another post.
Right now, I have a question : what are the relations your hubby has with your blog ? Does he know its existence, does he read it, does he have one, what does he think about blogs in general ?
My hubby didn't know much about blogs. He only thought they were like private/public diaries you could find somewhere on the web. Since I told him I had one, we had quite a discussion about it. I am not sure I was succesful at presenting him the blog concept attractive. For what I guess, me blogging is like me reading any women magazines...futile and girlish.
Anyway, I will keep blogging.
BTW, how do you talk about other's blog ? Do you just add the link of their blogs on the side of yours of is there a special etiquette ??
What an ironic question I asked last week...I couldn't find a moment to blog since then !!!
Ok, I worked a lot in the house and also out of the house. But this will be the subject of another post.
Right now, I have a question : what are the relations your hubby has with your blog ? Does he know its existence, does he read it, does he have one, what does he think about blogs in general ?
My hubby didn't know much about blogs. He only thought they were like private/public diaries you could find somewhere on the web. Since I told him I had one, we had quite a discussion about it. I am not sure I was succesful at presenting him the blog concept attractive. For what I guess, me blogging is like me reading any women magazines...futile and girlish.
Anyway, I will keep blogging.
BTW, how do you talk about other's blog ? Do you just add the link of their blogs on the side of yours of is there a special etiquette ??
2008-02-27
Time for your blog
Hi there !
I just have 10 minutes from my bedtime so my post is going to be really short ! One simple and easy question : when is the best time for you to blog, read other blogs and how long to you spend on it (daily) ?
Thanks !!
I just have 10 minutes from my bedtime so my post is going to be really short ! One simple and easy question : when is the best time for you to blog, read other blogs and how long to you spend on it (daily) ?
Thanks !!
2008-02-26
A date
I haven't blogged in ages ! Since then, a lot of subjects were worth a post, except that lack of time and headaches kept me away from my computer.
Today I spent almost 3 hours in a Toy store (but a nice one if you know what I mean !) looking for the perfect birthday gift for my soon-to-be 3-year old and spending a gift card on scrapbooking materials. The music was everywhere in the store but not the same in each area...and way too loud. So I still have a headache so I will certainly make 2 posts (the second one after ny headache is gone !).
After a nice night out with a Mom Friend of mine, I decided to also apply the "get a date with your husband at least once a month" mom 2nd commandment (spell?)so I emailed my hubby a nice Evite (with 2 hearts touching each other, very girly !) for a date together on Saturday night. He was assigned the meal while I took care of the wine and putting the kids on bed on time.
Honestly,it was one of our best dates since we are together (12 years !!). We dressed the table nicely, put some candles, the wine was great, his choice of dinner was good. We had coffee lying on the sofa, talking as we were 12 years ago (new lovers, no kids !) and talking about nothing serious like our projects or the kids. We gossiped and laughed. It was great ! So we are going to do it again and the sooner, the better.
Of course, that didn't prevent me from saying nice stuffs to me on the following morning (like "you snored all night" or "could you please put down your book so I can have some sleep, pleaaaase") but maybe after the fourth or fifth date, we will start to look at each other differently...well, I hope so !
Today I spent almost 3 hours in a Toy store (but a nice one if you know what I mean !) looking for the perfect birthday gift for my soon-to-be 3-year old and spending a gift card on scrapbooking materials. The music was everywhere in the store but not the same in each area...and way too loud. So I still have a headache so I will certainly make 2 posts (the second one after ny headache is gone !).
After a nice night out with a Mom Friend of mine, I decided to also apply the "get a date with your husband at least once a month" mom 2nd commandment (spell?)so I emailed my hubby a nice Evite (with 2 hearts touching each other, very girly !) for a date together on Saturday night. He was assigned the meal while I took care of the wine and putting the kids on bed on time.
Honestly,it was one of our best dates since we are together (12 years !!). We dressed the table nicely, put some candles, the wine was great, his choice of dinner was good. We had coffee lying on the sofa, talking as we were 12 years ago (new lovers, no kids !) and talking about nothing serious like our projects or the kids. We gossiped and laughed. It was great ! So we are going to do it again and the sooner, the better.
Of course, that didn't prevent me from saying nice stuffs to me on the following morning (like "you snored all night" or "could you please put down your book so I can have some sleep, pleaaaase") but maybe after the fourth or fifth date, we will start to look at each other differently...well, I hope so !
2008-02-21
Moms Night Out
Today, I had a call from a friend I haven't seen in 6 months. We agreed a month ago to go out together on the 21th, today. We haven't talk since then and I thought she was still out of town (she is a teacher and we are on Spring break).
I found something strange about moms night out : I made the resolution 2 years ago to absolutely go out with my girlfriends once a month. We all agreed that it looks like a tough resolution but it was worth making it. Without comittment, we'd never do it and months and years will pass...Since then, the results are pathetic : I just went out once, and I had to push me to. Ok it was for my birthday (why I don't like celebrating my birthday since I am over 35 ??!!) and it was freezing outside (0F). My one-year old was cranky and my hubby moody. Why did I find so many excuses instead of just going out and enjoy having fun like a (single) grown-up woman ??
Anyway, the Spanish restaurant I found was great. Ok, we got lost for 15 minutes, froze for 5 but the food was good and after that, I ended up talking with one of my friend until 2 a.m at her place (something I haven't done since I am a mom).
So 1 year and a few months after, again : Mister Son is having a bad cold, I didn't have time to check what's playing on theaters and...so well, I took my cell phone and called my friend. Guess what I told her ? "I'll be at your place at 7 and we'll have a drink before going out to a nice restaurant" ! So the pastas for the kids tonight are on their way....jeez, I forgot the pastas on the stove !!!!
I found something strange about moms night out : I made the resolution 2 years ago to absolutely go out with my girlfriends once a month. We all agreed that it looks like a tough resolution but it was worth making it. Without comittment, we'd never do it and months and years will pass...Since then, the results are pathetic : I just went out once, and I had to push me to. Ok it was for my birthday (why I don't like celebrating my birthday since I am over 35 ??!!) and it was freezing outside (0F). My one-year old was cranky and my hubby moody. Why did I find so many excuses instead of just going out and enjoy having fun like a (single) grown-up woman ??
Anyway, the Spanish restaurant I found was great. Ok, we got lost for 15 minutes, froze for 5 but the food was good and after that, I ended up talking with one of my friend until 2 a.m at her place (something I haven't done since I am a mom).
So 1 year and a few months after, again : Mister Son is having a bad cold, I didn't have time to check what's playing on theaters and...so well, I took my cell phone and called my friend. Guess what I told her ? "I'll be at your place at 7 and we'll have a drink before going out to a nice restaurant" ! So the pastas for the kids tonight are on their way....jeez, I forgot the pastas on the stove !!!!
2008-02-19
Here we are, ready to go !
Hello !
I am going to send a few emails to my friends and spread the blog idea. I hope my friends, that you won't be shy and that you will participate !
What's new today ? As yesterday, it's almost the end of the afternoon and I can't think about any thing productive I could have done !!
We took care of Miss Daughter this morning : she went to the hairdresser and then, had a doctor appointment. I was worried about her cough, especially now that our cat doesn't sleep with her anymore (I will tell you more about our cat, in a few moments). She gave her an asthma treatment for a week. It should help her hopefully get a good night sleep (and me too) but I am seriously freaking out about that !! Miss Daughter, an asthmatic child...
About our cat, now. I feel quite better so I guess it's time I spread the (sad) news. Our cat got really sick last September and it was like a stomach bug that we couldn't cure. It was tough giving her the medicine (yucky ones, BTW) and she couldn't hold any food. After 24 hours, I brought her back to the vet and they kept her for 36 hours with an (intravenous) to rehydrate and feed her. After that, she was ok.
A few days before last week-end, she started leaving food in her plate. She is always pretty hungry so I noticed it. During the week-end, she barely ate, I didn't like it. I hold her on Monday in my arms and I was shocked by her weight. It was like nothing. I ran to the vet, we made x-rays. There was a couple of bad spots, the vet wanted to make an ultra-sound to check on those dark spots....Tumor in her (intestines)...
Next morning, I am back at the vet clinic with my dear friend. Last night, I explained to her how bad it was (even if we didn't how yet exactly how bad it was) and what were our options. I didn't want to say goodbye to her because I felt terrible. I even let her slept where she wanted. I couldn't imagine it was her last night with us.
45 minutes after leaving her, the vet called me. The tumor is huge, 2 inches * 3 inches. Only 2 options : not waking her up, letting her rest or taking a (slight) chance and trying to remove the tumor. It could spread again, she could only have a few months left and she could also not survive the operation : "30%", he told me. How can you possibly have to face something like that suddenly ? I decided to go for it.
At 12:30, she's fine and recovering. At 5, we visit her with the kids. She was alert and screamed to me her discomfort (or something else ?). We talked with her and pet her for a long time. We were supposed to see her next morning.
At 5:30 the next morning, something woke me up. My black sweater on the bed made me think of her. Is that a sign of something or did I just get enough sleep ? I had breakfast and went back to bed. At 7:49, my cell phone rung, the vet "I am sorry but I think she's passing away". I quickly got dressed and made the 8 minute-ride as fast as I could. I ran in the streets hoping she would wait for me. I missed her , 4 minutes. She is gone, for real, my sweet little furry friend of 13 hectic years. She left us on Valentine's day.
It's only now that I feel not too bad. The following days were so dark. I felt really sad, crying a lot, angry and devastated. I never thought I would react that intense.
Miss Daughter was also very sad, she cried with me the first days. Mister Son is too young but I guess he knows what happened. Since then, he's been pretty much cranky. I don't think he fully understood the concept of death but he does know that he won't see her anymore. Miss Daughter worries me : she keeps using the words "death" or " he's dead" or "I'll be dead" all the time for pretty much anything. She's been doing that for 2 weeks or so. The day our cat died, she had a lot of questions like "where is she now ?", "can we go visit her over there ?", "can we bring her back ?", etc.
There was a poster on the doctor's door this morning about (orthoptie) with a drawing of a kid with a patch on his eye. Mister Son asked "what's that ?" and Miss Daughter answered right away : "it's a kid who's going to die". The doctor said "sure, that's it". I was shocked. Maybe I am overeacting ? Maybe she is just trying to attract my attention ?
I talked about it in the car but I am not I should have. I explained that death wasn't something to make fun of it. Because it's serious, because it has to do with other people sadness. She has a friend at school who lost her mother so I told her "do you think she would be happy if you talk like that in front of her". I made my point but I am not sure I handled this "case" the right way.
What do you think ?
I am going to send a few emails to my friends and spread the blog idea. I hope my friends, that you won't be shy and that you will participate !
What's new today ? As yesterday, it's almost the end of the afternoon and I can't think about any thing productive I could have done !!
We took care of Miss Daughter this morning : she went to the hairdresser and then, had a doctor appointment. I was worried about her cough, especially now that our cat doesn't sleep with her anymore (I will tell you more about our cat, in a few moments). She gave her an asthma treatment for a week. It should help her hopefully get a good night sleep (and me too) but I am seriously freaking out about that !! Miss Daughter, an asthmatic child...
About our cat, now. I feel quite better so I guess it's time I spread the (sad) news. Our cat got really sick last September and it was like a stomach bug that we couldn't cure. It was tough giving her the medicine (yucky ones, BTW) and she couldn't hold any food. After 24 hours, I brought her back to the vet and they kept her for 36 hours with an (intravenous) to rehydrate and feed her. After that, she was ok.
A few days before last week-end, she started leaving food in her plate. She is always pretty hungry so I noticed it. During the week-end, she barely ate, I didn't like it. I hold her on Monday in my arms and I was shocked by her weight. It was like nothing. I ran to the vet, we made x-rays. There was a couple of bad spots, the vet wanted to make an ultra-sound to check on those dark spots....Tumor in her (intestines)...
Next morning, I am back at the vet clinic with my dear friend. Last night, I explained to her how bad it was (even if we didn't how yet exactly how bad it was) and what were our options. I didn't want to say goodbye to her because I felt terrible. I even let her slept where she wanted. I couldn't imagine it was her last night with us.
45 minutes after leaving her, the vet called me. The tumor is huge, 2 inches * 3 inches. Only 2 options : not waking her up, letting her rest or taking a (slight) chance and trying to remove the tumor. It could spread again, she could only have a few months left and she could also not survive the operation : "30%", he told me. How can you possibly have to face something like that suddenly ? I decided to go for it.
At 12:30, she's fine and recovering. At 5, we visit her with the kids. She was alert and screamed to me her discomfort (or something else ?). We talked with her and pet her for a long time. We were supposed to see her next morning.
At 5:30 the next morning, something woke me up. My black sweater on the bed made me think of her. Is that a sign of something or did I just get enough sleep ? I had breakfast and went back to bed. At 7:49, my cell phone rung, the vet "I am sorry but I think she's passing away". I quickly got dressed and made the 8 minute-ride as fast as I could. I ran in the streets hoping she would wait for me. I missed her , 4 minutes. She is gone, for real, my sweet little furry friend of 13 hectic years. She left us on Valentine's day.
It's only now that I feel not too bad. The following days were so dark. I felt really sad, crying a lot, angry and devastated. I never thought I would react that intense.
Miss Daughter was also very sad, she cried with me the first days. Mister Son is too young but I guess he knows what happened. Since then, he's been pretty much cranky. I don't think he fully understood the concept of death but he does know that he won't see her anymore. Miss Daughter worries me : she keeps using the words "death" or " he's dead" or "I'll be dead" all the time for pretty much anything. She's been doing that for 2 weeks or so. The day our cat died, she had a lot of questions like "where is she now ?", "can we go visit her over there ?", "can we bring her back ?", etc.
There was a poster on the doctor's door this morning about (orthoptie) with a drawing of a kid with a patch on his eye. Mister Son asked "what's that ?" and Miss Daughter answered right away : "it's a kid who's going to die". The doctor said "sure, that's it". I was shocked. Maybe I am overeacting ? Maybe she is just trying to attract my attention ?
I talked about it in the car but I am not I should have. I explained that death wasn't something to make fun of it. Because it's serious, because it has to do with other people sadness. She has a friend at school who lost her mother so I told her "do you think she would be happy if you talk like that in front of her". I made my point but I am not sure I handled this "case" the right way.
What do you think ?
2008-02-18
My first shot !
Hello !
This is my first shot, I know nothing (or so little) about blogs...but I thought I'd give it a try. I am not sure my first posts will be great but I bet I'd get better in a few days/weeks.
I spent the whole afternoon (with a 3 and 6-year old around) surfing around mom blogs, I am impressed. They are all so nice and shiny !!
Now I am late for everything. Only one kid had a bath, dinner is so not ready (and I didn't have a clue about what I'll be preparing !) but I had a GREAT TIME. I found today that sometimes, you have to indulge you some "free" time (esp. during 2-week spring break @ home with the kids), it's refreshing !! Try it someday ! I am sure you'll see that nothing collapse because dinner for the kids is not ready at 6:30 (and they could be skipping their bath tonight !!). I feel more relaxed (even if there is chaos around me, they are chasing each other and screaming as loud as they can).
How will I start my blog ? Not a clue !
To make it short (It's almost 8pm, my very very last deadline for dinner !), I am a work at home Mom (or at least, want to be) after a 6 year break in my working life (to take care of the kids in a foreign country). I love nothing more than a great cup of coffee (and I mean the one shot expresso !) and great ideas. I am always looking for the best, best store in town, best online shopping website, best way to travel with kids or latest trends for clothes, home decor and kid stuffs. I might waste a lot of my free time on that never ending quest but it's my addiction (with coffee and chocolate).
Unfortunately, the clock is ticking really fast now and I am only 3 minutes before 8pm, the screams are getting too loud. I hope I can catch up later !
This is my first shot, I know nothing (or so little) about blogs...but I thought I'd give it a try. I am not sure my first posts will be great but I bet I'd get better in a few days/weeks.
I spent the whole afternoon (with a 3 and 6-year old around) surfing around mom blogs, I am impressed. They are all so nice and shiny !!
Now I am late for everything. Only one kid had a bath, dinner is so not ready (and I didn't have a clue about what I'll be preparing !) but I had a GREAT TIME. I found today that sometimes, you have to indulge you some "free" time (esp. during 2-week spring break @ home with the kids), it's refreshing !! Try it someday ! I am sure you'll see that nothing collapse because dinner for the kids is not ready at 6:30 (and they could be skipping their bath tonight !!). I feel more relaxed (even if there is chaos around me, they are chasing each other and screaming as loud as they can).
How will I start my blog ? Not a clue !
To make it short (It's almost 8pm, my very very last deadline for dinner !), I am a work at home Mom (or at least, want to be) after a 6 year break in my working life (to take care of the kids in a foreign country). I love nothing more than a great cup of coffee (and I mean the one shot expresso !) and great ideas. I am always looking for the best, best store in town, best online shopping website, best way to travel with kids or latest trends for clothes, home decor and kid stuffs. I might waste a lot of my free time on that never ending quest but it's my addiction (with coffee and chocolate).
Unfortunately, the clock is ticking really fast now and I am only 3 minutes before 8pm, the screams are getting too loud. I hope I can catch up later !
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